Thrown off his game

26 Mar

It appears the Chess Player is in fact smitten.  Bear witness to our text exchange from last week:

  • CP: Genetics was very kind to you in many ways apparently.
  • Me: Giant breasts and the ability to talk about multiple things at once.  Thank you, genes.
  • CP: Lol I wasn’t only referring to that!
  • Me: And dimples.
  • CP: And you’re smart
  • CP: And you’re nice
  • CP: And you’re funny
  • CP: And hot
  • Me: All true.
  • CP: Do I have to keep going?

Not included in the above is when he invited me over.  For a slumber party. I said I don’t do slumber parties and he said he wanted me to stay, he’d even sleep on the couch so I could sleep.  Then in the morning he’d make me breakfast – he’d even run out and get me coffee in the morning.

I don’t know about you, but that doesn’t sound so casual to me.

I took him by surprise on Thursday.  We’d been texting pretty regular, but when Monsieur le Baguette calls me, I immediately stop texting.  So Thursday Chess Player and I had been texting.  Had to stop to prepare for my big faux 5 year wedding anniversary.  At 8:30 that night he messaged me to find out what I was doing, and I said I was heading out to dinner.  “Got a hot date tonight?” he asked.  “I may,” I replied.  Got one text message back from him and then didn’t hear from him for 3 days.

I feel kind of bad.  The Chess Player is a nice guy.  I enjoy chatting with him, I’d go out with him again.  Sure we have some kind of connection, but when compared to Monsieur le Baguette, there’s really not much competition.  While MlB and I figure out what’s going on – which will not be for awhile since I’ve made it clear he has to rebound before we’re together (although he doesn’t want to) – we’re both able to see other people.  And I plan to.  So, yes, we’ll see what happens with the both of them.

The best thing I can do is be absolutely clear with the Chess Player.  Clear boundaries.  No slumber parties.  We are free to see other people.  This is may not go down the path of a long term relationship.  Maybe it’s wrong.  I’m afraid that I’m going to end up hurting The Chess Player, even with clear defined boundaries of what this is and what this is not.  It’s his choice to make, right?  If he wants to keep going or not?  As long as I’m clear with him of what I can and can’t give to him.  Right?

10 Responses to “Thrown off his game”

  1. Grey Goose, Dirty at 12:39 pm #

    Ugh. Tough call. It’s absolutely his decision to keep pursuing even with the facts, but I’d be torn too. Just be honest about everything (which I know you’re doing) and see what happens. This is one of these karmic boomerang things….

    • Catherinette at 2:41 pm #

      I’m trying to be really open here. Me not know.

  2. iamnotheretohelpyou at 1:47 pm #

    Honesty is the only policy and your on that. So all you can do is see.

    • Catherinette at 2:42 pm #

      It’s totally his call, right? Not mine. If I tell him what’s up and he wants to stay – his decision. Maybe?

  3. Kerryn at 4:13 am #

    Yes, yes it is. As long as you are honest and clear.

    But face it, if he ends up getting hurt, you are still going to feel bad, you’re a nice person, it’s the way it works.

    • Catherinette at 9:34 am #

      Ugh! I feel bad already. And also, a bit like an asshole. Maybe I should pull out now?

  4. Notlikeothermoms at 5:59 pm #

    Are you his #4??

    • Catherinette at 7:57 pm #

      Whoa. That’s a great fucking question. Mind blown!!

    • Notlikeothermoms at 2:03 pm #

      Jus sayin…food for thought. 😘

    • Catherinette at 2:26 pm #

      You are totally wise!

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