I owe you an update on my date the other night with #6.
We had made arrangements to meet at a cool restaurant downtown that I’d been dying to try. He arrived before I did and when I walked in I was happy to see that he was a bit cuter than his pics. He was also a bit shorter than I thought and with my amazing boots I was probably an inch taller than he was. Whatever, no bigs, figured I’d never have to wear heels again – I love flats. #6 was in a bit of a panic when I got there because he’d realized he’d left his wallet in the back of the uber. In some respects it worked out well because the problem solving mode we had to go into helped us get past any nervousness.
Wallet in hand, we were able to sit down and enjoy our drinks. The drink menu was the bomb and sitting at the bar we were able to watch all the madness in the restaurant. I’ve come to the conclusion that sitting at the bar is way better than sitting at a table because you’ve got a better chance of reading body language, and if they have hot arms and you want to touch them, it makes it easier.
For those of you who voted in the poll as to whether/not I should give him a birthday card (his birthday was the night before), “yes” was the right answer. He loved the card and was touched that I’d even thought to do that. I’m a kind person, god damn it (someone tell #4). Let me thank NONE of you for telling me what I should write in his birthday card. Really helpful. No really, thank you to no one. In the card I’d written that I’d handle first round of drinks and he told me absolutely not. When he got up to go to the bathroom I closed out the tab on the first round because I knew he’d fight me.
I had really low expectations going into the date. In our messaging he was making me do a whole lot of work and the conversation wasn’t flowing. In person, I was getting all sorts of right signals and the conversation was smooth. He shared some fun Tinder/OKC stories, asked questions about me, was a good flirt, and fun company. As I did the previous night on my date with #5, I got up at one point to go to the bathroom just so he could see how amazing I looked in my outfit. Yes, I wore the damn one as the previous date. No, I don’t have a problem with doing that. The outfit was banging. I may start wearing it everyday.
Three hours (and three drinks) went by in the blink of an eye. “I don’t know what I was expecting tonight, but I have to say I’m pleasantly surprised,” he told me. He said he thought I was smart and very attractive and that he’d love to see me again. Likewise. So promising! It was a great first date. Not quite as spicy as the first one with #4, missing some of the chemistry, but definitely worth another date.
I messaged him when I got home and gave him my number. Text message sent from him 5 minutes later. Good morning texts on Wednesday and Thursday – some witty banter the rest of the days. And yesterday he asked me out again. I said yes, of course I said yes, because he’s cute and funny and we have some chemistry and why the hell not?
Yippeee!! You’re having much better luck than I! Can’t wait to read about your 2nd date with him. I do think it’s time for you to tell #4 to fuck off. He’s taking up space where he shouldn’t. Hook up with him or not, but it’s time for him to go…..
I totally Matt Husseyed #4 last night. He wanted to meet up with me and I wrote, “You’ll have to work a little harder than that if you want to see me. [winky kissy face]”
No, no, no! There is nothing about #4 that Matt would approve of! Good line, wrong target….
Well, it worked!
Don’t listen to me. You do you. Wait, is he taking you on a date before you climb on him?
We had the weirdest text conversation today. Legit strange. I think we’ll end up making out and that’s it.
Huh. Does he run hot and cold or is he just all talk? You said he was a good kisser, so…..
He has zero idea what he wants. Whatever. I’m going to touch him. I look forward to objectifying him.
Guys are so f*ing annoying/stupid/confused/confusing. Objectify away. I’m betting he pussies out….