I’m going to start charging by the hour

18 May

No, I don’t mean for wristies or blowies in the men’s room.


Everyone has  a friend or two who is an emotional leach.  The world is always ending, they can’t get ahead, nothing goes well, and all they want to do is complain about everything.  It’s emotionally draining having to hear all of their problems – all the time.  My mom is a shrink, and God only knows how she sits there day after day listening to all the nonsense people tell her.

At least she gets paid for it.

What must it be like to go through life never seeing any of the silver linings?  There’s a lesson to be learned in everything – sometimes we don’t see the lesson until later, but it’s there, you just have to look at it.  AND sometimes you need to take responsibility for stuff too.  The world isn’t against you.  That’s not the reason your job sucks, your boyfriend is the devil, or your parents are being pricks.

Maybe you don’t belong at that job because it’s not a good fit and it makes you miserable and you argue with your boss and refuse to accept any feedback.  And perhaps if you spent half the effort looking for a new job instead of bitching about your current one, life would get better.  Guess what?  Perception is reality.  If your boss thinks you have a problem communicating with clients, good luck trying to fix that – arguing about it with her isn’t going to help you – that just proves you have communication problems.  If everyone at work thinks you’re not focused at work because you’re too busy shopping online, maybe it’s time to save the online shopping for when you get home.  You’re an adult.  Act like one.

Maybe you shouldn’t be going out with that guy because he’s a fucking dick and you deserve better.  You know what?  Being on your own is 100 times better than being with someone who makes you cry all the time.  Sure, the highs may be SUPER high, but when you start having more lows than highs, it’s time to get out.  Perhaps it’s time to focus your energy on figuring out why you would want to go out with a hurtful douche bag.  He’s not going to change.  You still can.

And by this age, you should know how you parents are going to react to something.  Teenagers, that battle you have with your parents about whether or not you can stay out late or whether or not you have to clean your room?  Your parents will always win.  Adults, your mom pissed at you because you didn’t invite her to your dinner party and you posted pictures on Facebook?  That was a dick move on your part – why would you post pictures when you KNOW she’s going to be upset about it?  What the hell is wrong with you?  Pick your battles.

Stop bitching about your problems all the time and figure out a way to fix them.  You’re making yourself miserable, and you’re making everyone around you miserable.


God, I feel so much better now.


4 Responses to “I’m going to start charging by the hour”

  1. Debralee May 18, 2013 at 11:46 am #

    That was absolutely perfect. I have a couple friends like that and they suck the life force right out of me. I’ve learned to cut the convos short or not take the phone calls at all.

    Well said.!!!!!!!!

  2. ron May 20, 2013 at 11:46 am #

    I get people being in a funk because of a string of bad luck. But, ultiamtely, you have to brush yourself off, get up and regroup.

  3. Online Dating Chick June 26, 2013 at 8:55 pm #

    Genius. Your writing is honest and to the point. I definitely need that fabulous slap in the face.

  4. ron July 9, 2013 at 4:56 pm #

    where have you gone

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